It’s hurts to see her act normal interacting with other people …..
I just want to chime in on that one . It’s a complete facade. I got a phone call from H few weeks ago . Before I pulled way back . Normal conversation . Good morning and what not . I asked how his day was . To my shock . He opened wide up . H said I’m a mess emotionally and sobbing. No one knows the real me . They see this happy person . This fun loving co worker . They would never even know nor will I even tell them the extent .
A year ago H would have never communicated that at all . Would have blamed me and said I’m great with everyone else but not when I’m with you . The same as your W . Cold shoulder. Inadequate and the reason for her misery . The emotional mess actually wasn’t even about our M but his chronic illness beginning to flare up again .
It takes a very long time and sometimes it never happens for them to separate it . Real life happiness and security vs casual happiness and friendship .
It’s hurtful . I know this feeling all too well . Take a different perspective on it .
