I found a bit of peace when I came terms with it’s not that they can’t handle it while in crisis . Specifically they were never made to handle it . We always picked up the pieces for them and in my case his first wife and mother did the same . Excuses and never real accountability for hurt they caused . Lately I’ve shifted very far away from that . Whether the marriage survives or not . I’m just not sweeping anything under the rug to spare H feelings . I am far from cruel . Just direct . I deserve this . I’m not tolerating that . It’s not even a discussion. It’s extremely sad to watch from the outside . Like just watching a building burn to the ground but you know it has to .
Women want strong men . You can be nice but also strong . There’s a line there . I can tell you looking at the emotional mess H is it’s not portraying strong . It’s pretty pitiful to see someone who self destructs. Stay strong .
