Thank you - thank you - thank you! Everyone's advice has been spot on. If I am being honest, when I first started on here, I was skeptical. One of the things my W wants is more attention and DBing is counterintuitive. But the more I buy into it, the more I can see some changes. I don't question advice anymore, I just follow it.
Yesterday was another NEW normal day. She had a few bouts of anger and I was calm, didn't react to it like I normally would and continued on with my DBing. We all went out shopping and to dinner where for a few hours she totally normal. She brought up the R and said at one point said that she wants to this work out and keep her family together. I listened to her but then changed the subject. My kids were able to hear some of the conversation so it was best to move on anyway.
