What "peace" do you think are giving your children?
Not being dragged across half the state every weekend or every other weekend . We split 5 years ago for a few months . He ran the kids into the ground and himself . One of the smaller ones got to the point of not wanting to go and crying for days before going . He then would leave them with his mother and go out until all hours of the night . Unfortunately I’ve been through a divorce once . If they are not causing them physical harm they can do these kind of things . The same little one I can almost guarantee will not going willing as often as he would make her . Just not doing it .
I’m getting older . I just don’t have the fight or energy in me to watch him emotionally destroy them because he’s entitled to split time .
What do you think they are learning from watching you in this relationship?
Get out of a bad relationship before you have children
What do you think they are learning from watching H in this relationship?
That he behaves like a child . They don’t look at him like an adult . If it walks and quake like a duck well …..
What do you think they are learning about relationships in general by watching your H and you?
Don’t have children with people until you truly know them . You will either be forced to choose yourself or between splitting your children up if you choose to partner with the wrong person .
My older child knows this very well . Has had a boyfriend few years now . Not even a mention of marriage or children . Not a peep .
My older son - protective over his mother and women . Can’t tell you the last time he has ever even raised his voice or said something out of line . Usually pretty well mannered with women .
I do waiver back and forth . I understand the impacts I think more so of a split being I went through one with my older children . Do I regret it , absolutely not . Is this situation different . Yes .
I find the biggest differences being I want this relationship to work for one specific reason . Stability for my children .
