I took care of a couple business transactions and I'm feeling good.
Through the accountant's follow-ups, H responded and provided the remaining tax filing document to the accountant directly. That was a win as I didn't want to reach out to him. A 180 for me.
Met up with H today to gift the cars to each other so that I can get a single car insurance policy and not fund his portion. I met him at the location and got there a few minutes before him. When he walked in, I was upbeat, friendly, kind and treated him like one would treat a plumber. We got right down to business and were out of there in 15 minutes.
When I looked at H, my eyes couldn't help but notice that his face is sunk in. He continues losing weight and he certainly doesn't appear to be getting any rest. His hands were dirty almost as if he had been working on something...and the wedding band is on the finger. Interesting. Began to wonder if he conveniently puts it on and off to suit the moment.
When he noticed that my band is no longer on my finger, I could see that he hid his hand and then quickly exposed it. And was flaunting the band. I continued to look away and ignore the busy hand.
It's time he feels his consequences. No need to soften the fall.
On our way out, I informed H that I switched the billing address for the cell phone bill and that I was getting notices that the invoice are behind. He didn't know. hmmm. He quickly responded with, 'Well, that's fine but I can't afford to pay the bill so I don't know what'll happen." I replied, I'm sorry. I thanked him for taking care of the car gifting and handed him an annual bill that he also needs to fund that I'm no longer taking care of.
Asked him if he paid the excise tax and he said, 'not yet.
H is hurting but clearly not quite sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Self-care is important. Boundaries are flying. Enough is enough. No tears. No feeling sorry for him. I was as detached as I've been.
I have no room for infidelity. I wasn't built for this betrayal. Still working to forgive. Praying for a softened heart. Until then, boundaries are flying.
Kicked the radio up and sang my heart out the entire ride home. As I parked, I already had a text from him with the odometer reading that was needed. Responsible.
There is more business to come.
Filing is off the table. For now.
Didn't tell the kids about OW.
D asked if I had talked to H. I said nope. She was sad and asked why. I said, I'm accepting dad's decisions and behaving accordingly. After a lengthy stare, she said, OK. Her wheels are spinning.
H wished the kids a happy Pi day on 3/14. We used to celebrate with a series of pies. D ignored his text. S asked what kind of pie H was getting. H said he wasn't going to have pie. hmmm
