Still detaching and embracing my new normal

[DnJ]

Good Morning MG

Today, I'm ready to put a plan together for moving towards dissolving the future of our M.

Ok. Give it a week or so. Ensure your reasoning and resolve is stable and non-wavering.

(It felt good to write that! and then I cried in disbelief. Am I ready for this?)

(((Hugs)))

This step/conviction is pretty new to you.

You’ve got time. That gift. Use it wisely. Focus on you and live. Let go H.

Ensure, your answer to “Am I ready for this?” is a yes, not a maybe.

Do I just send him an email? Is that cold? It feels so un-adult like. Yet, I don't want to be talked out of it.

With respect to dissolving our marriage, I'd like to attempt mediation first? I hope we can get through this with mutual respect and avoid unnecessary attorney and court fees.

Two paths: Emotional/Healing/Acceptance and Business.

When on the business side, be business-like. Conduct it as such.

My two cents. No email, no text, no call. Let your lawyer handle it. Have your L send H or H’s lawyer the paperwork.

H is not on team MG. There is not much point in trying to converse/negotiate with him, IMO.

Also, you do not want to unwittingly agree to some bad deal in some email. I’ve seen good faith, good intentioned ideas get twisted and become legally binding. Unsure all communications regarding anything D related goes through a L. You’ve got to legally protect yourself. H certainly isn’t going to.

You aren’t fighting, or playing hardball, or any such, you are simply ending this marriage - ending the business deal that’s gone sideways. There is lots of legal stuff to consider and your L is the expert. Utilize their expertise. And their distance from all of this. LBS are too close and emotionally embroiled in the situations, L’s are removed and remain more intellectually focused.

For most people, divorce is the biggest financial decision of their lives. To do so without a lawyer is pretty risky.

The tax file was dropped off at the accountants. They only need Form 1098 to complete our return. I'm hopeful that you've been able to take care of that.

For over two years, I've been covering the monthly fees for all four lines since you first informed me of your wish to separate. As of Feb, the billing address has been updated to your home. I'm working on removing my cell phone line from the family account.

I'm also working with the car insurance company to complete the plate and title transfers for the vehicles by the end of this month. This will allow us to obtain separate insurance policies when the policy renews on 4/1. You'll be receiving an email from the insurance company soon.

As agreed, I funded the excise taxes at the Town of <Town Name> for 3 of our vehicles, as you offered to fund the excise taxes for the car you were billed for.

All this ^^^, when/if you’re ready is not your problem. Let it go. Let the L sort it out. Tell your L your wishes and wants and let them do what they do.

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