Forgiveness is for you. Like acceptance, forgiveness does not mean you condone the behaviour.
You can both forgive and hold H accountable.
Originally Posted by MamaG
1. I dropped off the tax file and it needs mtg info from him. I didn't tell the acct. I haven't reminded H since the initial request. When acct calls for info, do I ask him to contact H directly? Be upfront now with acct about the missing info and ask that they reach out to H for it? Or, be the mediator since this is between H and I? Is there an option #4?
I agree with V’s short term and long term approaches.
I’d be upfront with the accountant about H’s missing information and ask them to inquire it from H. It sounds like taxes are joint so I’d ask the accountant to include both you and H in all correspondences.
You should consider next year’s tax situation. Perhaps speaking to the accountant will yield a better approach given your current living accommodations and such.
Option #4 would be filing taxes individually, not jointly. Might be advantageous. Rent, mortgage, household expenses, etc. Speak with the accountant. (You might even do it for this year.)
Originally Posted by MamaG
2. Daughter's car is in both our names. Do I get D involved to get him to sign it over? Or, is this another business item between H and I and I should leave her out of it?
Are you looking to transfer ownership to daughter? And insurance I surmise.
In my locale, it matters not if car is in one spouse’s name or both, all vehicles are considered martial assets. In this case, daughter’s car is legally not her’s, it’s a joint asset. If you are looking forward to stave off some contention in a potential separation, I’d suggest getting the car transferred to daughter.
Originally Posted by MamaG
3. If by some huge miracle, he responds to my text from 2/15, do I respond?
If it’s business, and it requires a response, fine respond. Otherwise, no. Be dark.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
