Val, I took a few days to think and read more about your post on control. I am taking my own growth seriously. I also read back through your own early posts. I just skimmed, didn't have time for it all. I read that control was an issue in your M so I see why you're getting out the big stick.
Interesting. And what do you think you are seeing?
Originally Posted by Dynamiq
Also, Valentines... I wrote a lighthearted little poem about wife (nothing romantic) and left it out for her to find along with some things for a nice breakfast and I left for work. She didn't acknowledge. I didn't expect her to and didn't expect anything to come of it. I did it more for the kids. So they would see how to treat their S someday and how they should expect to be treated. I know you all will say it was a mistake or not DB. Whatever. I'm not going to be the guy sitting here asking Internet strangers for advice before I make every choice in my life. I think thats a bad habit to get into and a bit too 'Nice Guy'. I do however welcome my perspective being challenged. I'm posting here to find out where I'm wrong.
Might want to re-read this. You sound quite full of yourself. And TBH - disrespectful to us.
Multiple vets have told you to give her space and you continue to ignore us. What's the point of us pointing out the "wrong" when you are just going to do your own thing...
... which continues to bring me back to what I've challenging you on.
You always seem to have a reason to excuse your choices or behaviors. This is not helpful if you indeed want to save your marriage... which I’m not quite sure you do. Perhaps you just want things back to the way they were.
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M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
