So this morning I was in a much better place and thinking about my mood when I posted last night and how i was thrown so far off course by something so small. It was obvious to me, as it is to all of you, that I still haven't found the patience I need and my happiness is still too tied up in what's happening with my wife.
Valeska I'm going to dig deeper on what you have said before I'll reply to those points on control.
At BD I was taking 100% of the responsibility. When I found out about her 10month Affair then I swung to taking 50% or less. Now I am only looking control what I can control. But yes, figuring out what is OUTSIDE my control is another thing...
-"The board would also say to not initiate conversation however to engage and validate WHEN she does want to share." Not initiating I understand if there is an active A but even in our sitch where I'm hoping to recover and just be myself and try to present some sort of normality for the kids?
