On point ! I think the best part of the conversation when he was talking about it was when he said “ I don’t want to go near any of that again “ . I do think the struggle is the two we are talking about have been “friends “ of his for roughly 10-15 years . There was a time they were actual friends “normal” friends . Kids would play together . They would go watch sport together . I’ve been out with them several times with none of that chaos going on . I think what’s really bothering him when it comes to the nitty gritty from what I’m gathering is they haven’t even checked on him to see if he’s alive . Amazing how when you remove yourself from the chaos you just can sit back and watch those friendships crumble . Not in a mean way either .
I spit out my coffee with the comment “you are the company you keep “. I kid you not I said that exact phrase to him about 2 months before BD . Not in a mean way but said if you surround yourself with people who cheat you eventually become one of them . I kid you not he has brought that comment up to me numerous times . He remembered me saying it and has said you are absolutely right . I surrounded myself with other people who solved their problems with affairs . I didn’t even have those problems in my marriage and I made them like they were my problems .
He’s got 1 or 2 solid friends . I’ll support those friendships . Other than that . The others can kick rocks .
