We can lose some parts of ourselves slowly over time.
You'll find that pretty common in our stories here. It seems to be true both in the WAS and the LBS. It was true of me.
Originally Posted by Dynamiq
Time and patience is one thing but I will soon have to see some progress from W. I had a timeline for reevaluating in mind. I see no reason not to assert what I want and expect from a marriage. Why shouldnt I? We need to get unstuck.
On those timelines ... I'm not sure if you have really grasped how long these things take. Stories here that helped me understand were from Sandi2, AmyC, and FightingFit. Read through the thread below to see inside the mind of a woman who was in an A and what it took to come out. Her H was apparently broken by the attempt to wait that long.
Originally Posted by FightingFit
I think it takes about 2 years after the Affair for the person to truly reconnect to their partner and truly begin to see their behavior for how bad it was and truly ASSIMILATE the shame enough to finally feel REGRET. as I said, lets hope you can make it that long. there is no short cut.
