After my BD I was one hour at a time. Even one minute at a time. Seriously!
Snooping does brings more pain/questions than answers. You are correct about trying to control. We all try to form some control over the situation. Things is, you only control you. Your thoughts, actions, and reactions. That’s it. Those three things. Focus on you and control what you can control.
Through your controllable actions and thoughts you can/will influence your emotions. It does take time.
You will be ok. I know it feels different. It feels impossible. Yet, you will be ok.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
