Thanks for the thoughtful and challenging reply DnJ.
I suppose I have been getting a bit negative today. A bit angry I suppose. I've been going through the LBS stages of grief as well and I think I'm between depression and acceptance. But anger pops up regularly. It's easier to see in hindsight and my progress did dip for a while. It's to be expected.
I suppose with this at home limbo it's just difficult to know what I'm supposed to be doing. If there was an obvious ongoing affair or she moved out it would be clear. I get that she's in crisis of some kind but I don't see that as an excuse for treating me the way she is. I just feel like giving her very little of my time and attention, like she is doing to me. I'm getting no help in healing from her so I feel I have enough on my plate. Attraction and respect are low or non existant should I not just show her that I'm ready to move on?
I feel closer to ending things myself at the moment. You might then ask why am I here. I suppose because some of the better advice I've seen is here. I'm confused and don't know if the situation can be turned around.
I do want to save my marriage and keep my family together but not at the cost of my happiness and mental health.
I'll sleep on it before I decide about the weekend plans.
