You mentioned that you took over everything to alleviate stress. Perhaps that was part of the problem.
Men like to believe that women like to be taken care of? This is false. Women like to feel emotionally safe. This helps them feel like they can grow in the independence, in their needs and wants in life. It helps them take risks and believe in themselves.
The problem is that when you take away a person's opportunity to handle something for a LONG period of time... it' starts to dig away at these things. The person being taken care of starts to believe they are unable to do it on their own. Unable to handle stress, or conflict, or grow. They become stagnant. And you, the H, are no longer helping her. You are hurting her... and she begins to distance herself from that hurt.
So besides that point, how else did you behave as a H? Where would you consider yourself "falling short"?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
