Many of the spouses will pop back out in the early spring. They tend to disappear when there are holidays and events that they need to be "present" at. They can't handle family affairs because they think that they have been judged and do not want to listen to any advice that other family members may want to offer.
Do not worry, they will be back out in full force very soon. I haven't seen one yet that didn't pop back out of the rabbit hole to stir things up.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
