I'm guessing DB's aren't going to like this but came across a philosophy about love, marriage, and divorce that has really had a positive impact on my healing process.
I am glad it has resonated with you and had a positive impact upon your healing.
Originally Posted by JoshSco
marriage in its current modern form is a social contract that was really created to pass on wealth from generation to generation over the past few hundred years
Oddly, the current modern marriage does not follow the hundreds of year tradition. Modern marriage is about love.
So, you’ve got the love. Why marry?
Marrying for love is no better than marrying for power, or money, or status, or whatever.
If you have the love, why do you need to get married? Traditionally, “old” traditionally, passing on wealth, property, etc.
The modern age, a better “reason” to marry. Respect. You respect the other person. Their values. So you marry. Combine resources and therefore can do more than either can do separately. The marriage being more than the sum of each.
Respect needs to be at the heart of a marriage, or relationship. Not love.
Love is the icing on the cake. It’s not the cake.
A relationship with respect and trust being the foundation, that love will flourish and will be unconditional.
Unfortunately most do not move into marriage due to mutual deep respect for one another. They do it for love, infatuation. (Lots of pressures from hallmark and diamond sellers. It’s everywhere. ) Then starts ownership, scarcity, fear, and such.
Abundance, living such a tenet, requires little to maintain. It is you. It is how and who you are. Which will be reflected in one’s actions.
However, discovering and achieving such does require purposeful effort. And time. Our modern world is quick to blame and hold grudges. And it does not display forgiveness often. Folks’ default usually follows the scarcity/fear path. And a big old dose of self entitlement. Definitely not the best ingredients for a relationship.
Yet, people do grow and evolve. Lots of hope in that.
Anyhow, just a few thoughts.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
) Then starts ownership, scarcity, fear, and such.
