I'm guessing DB's aren't going to like this but came across a philosophy about love, marriage, and divorce that has really had a positive impact on my healing process. I'm not great at putting emotions into words but it goes something like this:
-marriage in its current modern form is a social contract that was really created to pass on wealth from generation to generation over the past few hundred years
-as such, love gets put into a box that consists of ownership
-when you put love into a box of ownership, it can destroy the love; not always, but sometimes
-the ultimate love is unconditional; if you say I love you but only under the condition that you are by my side, that is not only unconditional but it's actually a massive condition
-the fear of divorce comes from a philosophy of scarcity of love
-when you change that philosophy from one of scarcity to one of abundance, that fear dissipates, and you can love unconditionally even if the one you love has chosen another path
Again, I don't expect a lot of agreement on this forum and feel free to chip away at this but it's been hugely healing for me!
