Your guy's collective advice and support have been so helpful. Here's tonight, love hearing what I'm doing right and wrong.
W: D10 is having a really hard time with me not being there in the evenings just cried for half an hour. (Yes my fault I know) I’ll try sleeping top bunk. Maybe apartment weekends. It’ll be better once more activities. I’d like more space for us But I can’t do that unless I know you’re agreeing to my primary custody and 2/3.
Me: That must be tough for u, thanks for trying the bunk and would think of creative solutions if that doesn't work (e.g. D10 sleeps with D15, u in D13's bed, D13 in D10's bed). It's fortunate they are all girls. Your weeks will still b your weeks regarding the kids. I haven't figured out what I want regarding custody. Still processing that with therapist.
W: Stop being patronizing. I’m so over it. Making the girls shift isn’t really fair either.
W: The most stable thing for the girls and custody is not to shift weekly to different homes. Think of how hard that is with school. Research it, it’s much more stable for them to have one place during school days. Your therapist doesn’t necessarily put kids first she puts yours first remember? That’s settled then. I can’t use apartment at night which is a waste of money and is going to suck for you too. If I don’t like creative solutions I’m back in our bed.
Me: Ok have a good night, hope ur cold is continuing to improve.
W: Whether or not I chose this, you forget how complicit you were in the unraveling. You’ve completely exonerated yourself from any responsibility.
W: You’d rather I stay unhappy (which means you don’t or ever really loved me) and in a house with someone I don’t love for the sake to make yourself happy. THAT is selfish.
W: It’s unfair that you won’t move out or move beds period. Having me sleep on a bunk and do what I do as a primary caregiver is unfair. It makes me a nanny. D13 mentioned today that you not moving seems unfair and neither will having me sleep somewhere else. Explain that to them. Talk about also instilling patriarchy for them.
just cried for half an hour. (Yes my fault I know) I’ll try sleeping top bunk. Maybe apartment weekends. It’ll be better once more activities. I’d like more space for us But I can’t do that unless I know you’re agreeing to my primary custody and 2/3. 
