You stated what you’re going to do. And you left her choices up to her. Good.
Focus on you and the girls. Be a gray rock to W. Do not take her bait, for she will try to elicit a fight. Be calm.
See a lawyer soon and lay out your situation to them. Know the legalities of your situation.
Continue to move forward. Leave the heavy lifting to W, for she’s the one who wants out. You don’t place boulders in her path, yet you don’t pave it in gold either.
Remember, doing nothing is doing something.
Keep moving forward.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.