I was rushed and talked into sharing an apartment on a rotating basis during the separation and my initial hesitation to that was brushed aside.
The separation is yours and can be had in the apartment. I’m staying in my home and sleeping in my bed.
W: I’m coming home Tuesday period as per our agreement. Do not make this messy. The girls are already texting me they miss me. Girls first. Take the vacation and the [censored] tickets I don’t care. We have talked about nesting and agreed. Period.
Me: I'm sleeping in my bed. It's a big house, sleep somewhere else. No animosity in front of the girls.
W: No. I’m coming back Tuesday. Sleep in your bed until then. It’s my [censored] bed too period. We agreed to nesting. You are not doing this to the girls. They need me home.
Me: Girls were texting me that they missed me too This is your separation W. This is your divorce. This is your blowing up the family. What if they universe gave you everything you needed and you walked away from it? [shouldn't have wrote that last sentence]
W: Yes and as per agreement we will get equal time with them during this period to help them transition. Period. They need their mama. You are letting anger blind you. Enough. I’m not texting anymore. This is counterproductive. I’m coming back Tuesday and sleeping in my bed at home. We are sticking to agreement until next mediation.
Me: I'm not leaving my home or my bed
W: Yes you are. That is too confusing to the girls. It’s OUR home. You will respect what we decided until we talk to professionals period. Do not make this nasty You are not putting the girls first
Me: No, I'm not.
W: Yes you are on Tuesday. Do not make me take this to the lawyer. We are 50/50
Me: No, I will be here on Tuesday. Your separation is the apartment and it's your separation.
W: Absolutely not, the girls need me and I will be back. You are not turning them against their mother or giving them a feeling of abandonment, that is so detrimental to their health. You are letting your anger blind you and not putting them first. I’ll come back now if I need to.
Me: I'm not telling u what to do, just letting u know what I'm doing. Who's not putting them first?
W: You. I have every right as a human to be happy. Then we’ll share the bed and eat the money on the apartment on your weeks. And confuse the F out of the kids in the process. They are under the understanding we are alternating. Constantly changing the rules creates chaos and instability. Trying to take their mom away creates abandonment issues. We can talk about this at therapy. You of anyone should know. The mom does not leave. D13 already says she really misses me. A week at a time is enough. Be a good person and allow the space we both need.
Me: No, your putting yourself before the kids. There's nothing about this that is good for the kids and you decided, I don't care
W: I have every right to be happy and they won’t be if I’m not. You want to stay married to someone who doesn’t love you for the sake of a nuclear family? I thought you were done and ready to move forward?
Me: I deserve to be happy too and I'm happiest in the house
Last edited by DnJ; 01/06/2502:38 AM. Reason: Removed swear words. Removed spouse’s name.
