Navigating the Last Resort

[DnJ]

Good Morning Josh

I’d stick to meat of the issue. Your point of view. Your decision. And not telling her how she feels. Nor giving her any extra ammo.

I don’t know that I’ll ever get back to feeling the way about you that I once did but I’m stilling willing to try. I know you don’t feel that way and want a separation. which I’ve respectfully granted with as little friction as possible for the sake of the kids.

But I feel like I was rushed and talked into the agreement to share an apartment on a rotating basis during the separation and my initial hesitation to that agreement was brushed aside. As a result, I’ve changed my mind.

If you want a separation, the separation is yours and can be had in the apartment. I’m staying in my home and sleeping in my bed.

I know you want a separation.

I was rushed and talked into the agreement to share an apartment on a rotating basis during the separation and my initial hesitation to that agreement was brushed aside.

If you want a separation, the separation is yours and can be had in the apartment. I’m staying in my home and sleeping in my bed.

This is your line in the sand.

The agreement was not a signed legally binding arrangement.

Seek legal counsel before agreeing to anything else. Seek legal counsel to ensure you know your rights and obligations. It’s just gathering information. However, it is best to be prepared.

It is sometimes difficult to see what is truly best for the kids. If you stand your ground, remain kind and cordial, respectful, non-demonizing to their Mom, you will be alright.

Separation/divorce is messy stuff. Horrible stuff. Do not get talked into, gaslit into, unwittingly giving up your rights. It’s ok to push back, to speak to a lawyer. For most folks this is the biggest decision of, and will have the biggest impact upon, their lives.

Be strong. Focus on you and the kids.

D