In many situations, couples who are going through a crisis do not always provide a united front for their children. The spouse that was left behind generally is the one that will exhibit a more positive front and no matter what is going on, do not put negative comments out there. The spouse that walked will most likely be the one to provide negative comments.
You want your children to know that they have a safe place to land and talk to you and the only way to do that is listen and if they ask about the situation, try to be as honest as you can without a lot of negativities.
Before you can assist them, i.e., just like on a plane, you need to put that oxygen mask on first and then assist your children. I know it's difficult because you are having to deal with the fall out and try to provide a safe place to land for your children.
You can do this. You want them to know that they can come to you and yes, they will remember just how the two of you reacted not only to the situation, but to each other.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
