First off happy new year . Make 2025 the best version of josh .
The sex nest : do not go to the apartment. She wants it . So she can have it . My suggestion is during her time there use the time to be the best father you can . Minimal contact and just love on your children . Children need consistency. Be their constant . Let her throw her fit . Ignore it . Learn to end conversations and/or not respond . You will get some hate , spew, fire just keeping on doing you . It takes time for them to see changes it also takes time for them to learn you won’t be baited .
When W has the children . Get out . Do you . Say nothing . Nothing ! Just return happy and back to being a great dad .
Let that A fizzle , crash , burn and pay no mind to it .
Validation is not you validating what you say , more of what your W brings up .
Example
Wife : it was extremely hard to feel you weren’t helping with the children’s after school activities.
You : That sounds frustrating
I will say on the other side of beginning to repair when he says stuff to me about what I didn’t do for him . I stare at him like a deer in headlights , wait a minute and he says yea I sound stupid now .
