Try not to focus on this sailing trip . You are causing yourself unnecessary pain . While they are deep in this there is nothing you can do but save yourself . You are doing good . I agree with declining new years . My famous line for a very long time when my children mentioned things about H was “ oh that’s nice “. About a year ago one of the children said to me . Daddy just wants to live his life and you should just let him . This was after him running a muck for a few weeks and just being flat out vulgar to me . Same response “oh that nice “. Knowing me I probably booked another trip alone away with the kids after they said it . One of the hardest things about any of this is the children . Innocent in the entire process . Just keep loving on them .
I understand the regret of a child whether adult or younger being told of an A. One of my younger ones was there when I got the letter . I had told H we would talk about it when the kids were not around and he just wasn’t having that . Oh it was not pleasant . H then decided to tell all the children still no idea why . Guess he figured the little one would talk so might as well , which she did. Keep your focus on your relationship with your children . Good idea telling her it’s between you and H .
