Ok came back two nights ago. W said oh good, my family and the kids will be happy to see you, I can sleep with one of the girls. That first night, she crawled into her side of the bed about 5 minutes after we went to bed. I asked, what are you doing and said it's too hot in the other room and the bed is uncomfortable. I didn't say anything and we didn't touch at any point in the night but it took me 6 hours to fall asleep. The next day I told her that was unfair and no good so she sucked it up and had a bad night's sleep last night in one of the girls room. This morning she said she's sleeping in our bed tonight regardless if I'm there or not. What's my move? I can't prevent her from doing that physically.
I think you reiterate that she made the choice to leave the family that includes the bed, home, etc.
Then you sleep in the bed. If there is a lock on your door - use it.
Expect her to spew anger. Stand your ground.
Also - I second what Kind said about your wife NOT being a narcissist. Sure - she is being selfish and acting like a jerk... but that doesn't mean she has NPD.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
