Oh boy ! I agree with the others that I would not move out of the home . I wouldnt even go to the rental . I don’t remember who it was but back in the beginning of BD for me someone posted learn to live in the uncomfortable. I suggest the same . Learn to do your own thing and whether it feels that way or not project happiness . It will come with time . Women seek strong partners . Sit back and become the best version of yourself . The strongest version . The A will crash and burn . You may decide to stay or go but you and you alone control one person . You ! Your W will test you to see if you’re still on the rope do not take the bait . I find them to almost be like spoiled children. They want what they want when they want it . Take care of you and the kids only .
As far as texting your sexual encounters with wife I’ll chime in with some honesty. I wouldn’t send anything . In my situation I did actually send them . I chose to do it after a letter was sent to the home to start but over the next week I received multiple times a day text messages random numbers , social media messages on various platforms , last I counted 10 different profiles with friends requests . The messages I was receiving were so out there about about my H loves them and how he didn’t sleep with me . One day I was fed up so I took the last 6 or so months of raunchy messages he had sent me and took screenshots and sent them all with one message back . And when I say the dirtiest messages I could find those are what I sent . We were still sleeping together 3-4 days a week during his A. The message said “he’s all yours, please come pick him up , yet he still sits in our home unwilling to move in with you “ . She blocked me and magically the fake profiles disappeared. Do I regret it, absolutely not . Have I received another message since , nope . In your situation I would not, A partners can be vicious. I only did this because I was sought out . I would have never had that not continued to occur . Seek your own peace . Your W needs to find her own way , it’s a long long road . Trust the vets posting and giving advice it seems wrong , real wrong sometimes but boy are they usually on the money .
