Not doing it to label her as anything to be honest, just trying to debrief and see the relationship for what it was so that i take lessons from it and keep an eye out for the same patterns in future. Ive seen a lot of videos from experts on cluster b personality disorders and many of them say the same, if someone has 5/9 traits from a their diagnostic manual then they are npd, and considering she had all 9 and the behaviours were so extreme and dramatic, its the only explanation for why she did what she did. And she repeated the exact same patterns with the last 2 dudes from what i saw from messages. The reality is diagnosis of npd is low because the disorder in an of itself is conducive to not getting diagnosed, very few do. And some of the best psychologist literature is written by actually diagnosed npd experts. And watching their lectures you understand exactly what and who you are dealing with
