Hey Mike. Yes, a good IC makes a world of difference as might a script for depression, anxiety, or similar issue if your provider can substantiate the need. It helped me quell the repetitive thoughts and get good sleep when I needed to be at my best. You say you still spend a lot of time together so I wonder if you need to make yourself a less easy alternative for her to lean on. You are right about not truly sounding detached. If you were, the situation would bother you less and less.
It does stink that you are at a point where life could be really great but for this relationship.Don’t give the relationship any more power to derail the life you want to be living right now. You may need to adjust your expectations for the time being. Not everything you hope to experience has to be tied to this specific relationship, right? Control what you can so that you are living the life you expect to have as much as reasonably possible.
