Wow! H had six months of mail. It’s pretty likely there is stuff within that stack that H should have been taking care of. Oh well, more lessons/consequences for him about shirking responsibilities.
You are correct, divorce is horrible and produces lots of collateral damages. Methinks daughter’s friend likely doesn’t quite have a firm grasp of the health (or hidden truth) of Mom and Dad’s relationship. It was two years before she even realize they were divorced. Clearly, her parents were not, and likely are not, being forthcoming with her (or themselves).
Originally Posted by MamaG
I know that H and I remaining friends for the kids would be a dream for the kids, but I am not up for that. Clearly!
I’m with you.
I can be friendly, but my ex and I aren’t friends. My friends don’t treat me that way.
Originally Posted by MamaG
I found [daughter] to be confused because she wants what her friend has but is continuing to feel the impacts of divorce on family.
I believe it best to follow the truth. There is age appropriate “playing nice” for the children, and age appropriate not living in a dream world. Daughter will heal better and fuller with truth. And seeing the hard harsh damages of divorce may solidify why/how sacred marriage and vows are, and are meant to be.
Gently steer. Let her vent. She is healing.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
