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[Boat14]

I've been dating this girl for about 7 or 8 months now.

This is a long time to be dating for it not to be serious unless you are BOTH in agreement that it is just casual.

I didn't consider it all that serious, but I guess it's getting to that point. I don't know how far it can progress, cause at this point I can't see myself getting married again.

Have you communicated your feelings about this to her? Most middle age women will not stick around unless they see a future.

Anyway, she has only met my son like twice, and both times were social situations with a lot of people. I have told him a little about her. She's been pushing to be involved in his life. I guess I kinda been holding off on it for a few reasons (unsure of long term potential, unsure how to go about it, unsure how he'll take it, etc).

Ask him. How do you feel about Dad having a GF? Would you like to do things together with her etc.

I wasn't very happy.

Obviously, it's none of my business who she dates (unless it's bad for our son). But to have this tool come to my house?

You will slowly start to learn that your have absolutely no control of anything she does.

Plus, as I said, I've been holding off my GF getting to know my son, cause I assumed it's best to wait for a while.

That's how you feel. She feels different.

Meanwhile, she couldn't have been with this dude for more than two months, and he's already involved in my sons life?

How do you know how long she has been with him?

I texted her and told her not to bring a guy to my house to pick up our son again. I know, bad move.

Dig down deep about why this bothers you so much.

She wrote back and said that he's a part of her life now, our son and her parents have met him, etc.

In other words "get used to it"

Am I crazy? lol

You are only crazy if you think you can control anything she does moving forward.