So just another update here, there were delays in having the stbxw served and she finally got served a week ago to her lawyer, something that she should have done many months ago, getting a lawyer. It seems her intent is one of vindictiveness and I sense she's getting coached by someone who was an ex of one of my friends. It is somewhat a combative type of approach, which baffles me considering everything shes done in the last 2 years and me negotiating everything in good faith. She now has until November 28th to reply to my court petition and file full financial disclosure. I requested all my entitlements on the court documents but left separation agreement that I had signed on the table. I have a strong feeling she is going to take the vindictive route and fight me in court, at which point I'll be forced to fly back and appear. I do not understand this approach as it's not only not beneficial to either of us but also going to get expensive. And we do not have any kids so none of this is necessary.
I truly think I am dealing with someone with some sort of personality disorder as this is being dragged on in a coercive, vindictive manner. Even the vehicle which has car loan financing on it under both our names, I received a notice 3 weeks ago saying there's been 4 missed payments, and banks can repossess after 3 missed payments. The car is still on the balance sheet as an asset under my name as was my car. I emailed here asking her to deal with it, she replied saying she's taken care of it. Now yesterday I receive another message saying 5 payments have been missed.
I seriously have a feeling she is doing this purposely out of anger and spite, for me leaving, as in how dare he leave my life, I'm going to punish him now. This is not normal human behavior when you are the one that steps out of the marriage. At least I have set timelines now and I can stop the financial bleeding it's costing me 3-4k a month on car rental and debt upkeep, not to mention 6k legal costs already incurred. I just need any agreement to be settled on so I can move on, pay off all my debts and detach legally and financially from her.
Otherwise on the personal front a relationship I had here for 3 months ended but I decided it was best for me as I did not see honest intentions. Met a new person and am taking it slowly, I've learned a lot being alone and know now not to settle for anything less than I deserve and the experience of dating again has given me an opportunity to get comfortable with the experience, and has allowed me to be comfortable being my best self around new women. Hopefully I have an end to this all soon and I can fully and 100% move on, with no more anchors holding me down and a purely clean slate in a life that I have full control over which direction it goes.
