H received and was appreciative of the book and said he'd read it. Before he moved out he was not open at all to any sort of self help in the form of a book - at least not any book that I could offer.
Let me know if you ever learn that he reads it. I've considered doing the same but don't want to interrupt the journey. H's bday is later this month. I will be following his lead on the gift front as mine is before his in November. Should I get a lil something, I'm thinking he could use a good read. Hoping yours reads it and reports back on his learnings. Wouldn't that be insightful?!
Originally Posted by Rumspringa
Finding myself incredibly angry and spitting venom into my set of locked One Note documents. I guess it's just how I have to process this. I have to go to work, leave this bottled up all day and then I come home and need to release all the thoughts that have built up during the day.
Yup. I feel ya. Journaling helped me through this weekend. I kept replaying the events and you saw what I processed through journaling. Hard, but it works. Do more of what works and less of what doesn't.
Originally Posted by Rumspringa
My work for me now is to figure out why I put up with so much rejection from him. Why it took something completely shocking and jarring to allow me to see our negative patterns of relating. And why I STILL want his approval, despite all that has happened.
I'm sorry to hear about poochies. I imagine, it was hard to learn they were neglected. Hi is in a fog. Unless I'm looking to do a gut check like this weekend (after 5 months of no contact), I no longer ask for help from H. For me, it was more that he'd 'forget' to come to do x and I could feel myself getting sad, mad, rejected. I don't feel rejected anymore...bc I don't ask him anymore. It also fits nicely into detaching.
Got any plans for this weekend? What fun GALing are you looking forward to?
Hoping yours reads it and reports back on his learnings. Wouldn't that be insightful?!
