It is amazing how much my mindset has changed over the last few days. I went from unsure and maybe even a little bit hopeful to definitely in the D camp. Sometimes you just have to know when to call it.
Only you will know when you have done all you can.
A mindset change of two days sounds emotion-driven. Let the feelings settle and consider/ensure your decision again through the lens of logic. You have time, nothing major need happen right away.
Originally Posted by RegretfulLA
My plan now is to start interviewing L's and get my ducks in a row and start preparing for D.
It’s a good idea to gain information and insight into the process and your rights and responsibilities.
Originally Posted by RegretfulLA
So, given that I have made this decision - am I allowed to still post here? This isn't exactly DB'ing, but it is taking back my power and finally acting in my own best interest.
Yes, you can post.
DBing is not a guarantee. One who embraces it will save themselves, and give themselves the best chance at saving their marriage. However, it takes two to make a relationship. You only control your half of that.
In some cases divorce is not the end of the story. The “old” marriage is dead, regardless of a piece of paper or not, and if the couple is going to go forward a new relationship is going to be needed.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
