Hi everyone. Plugging along here and plugging in to what fuels my well-being, joy and focus on my path.
Work has been going very well and in and of itself is a tremendous vehicle for me to be thriving. I had to get well to be able to get back to work and remaining focused there is definitely good for me. Continuing to work with my network and ensure that I meet milestones and stay on track.
Family relationships are going well. Youngest D is in college and moved in with her M over at GMs and that seems to be going well. D is over here a few times a week with or without her BF and I see them also at church.
Youngest S is really doing well lately. It was an arduous (to say the least) number of months with his health challenges and he has gotten back pretty much to his happy special needs self and doing very well here at home with me and having a lot of family love. He spends time with his M and that has been going well, including some visits (an hour or two at a time) with her over at GMs.
Eldest S is doing well and our F-S connection is really positive and very satisfying as he is really hitting his stride as a fine young man.
Eldest D and GD are doing well and we connect by phone. Making plans to visit over the holidays.
I have great connection with my core group of friends and have been making some other friends. Biking, hiking, lifting weights, music and dance are going strong. The leaders have asked me to demonstrate with a partner some of the moves that we have been learning in class and complimented my progress in becoming a good lead so that has felt good.
I continue with counseling and find that to be very helpful.
Interactions with W have been centered around S and the details that support her to be informed to care for him and also anything important. We have been continuing to have our weekly check in conversations about that and that seems to be going well as far as I have been concerned. Other than that I had been sticking to email, keeping it business like with the 24-48 hr mark unless urgent to respond if necessary and a question. Negotiations about assets including the house are progressing albeit slowly.
Having said that, W has been sending me some really kind and complimentary texts over recent weeks. Like ones affirming the character and strengths she sees in me and recognizing my values I live out and how much she appreciates me and how my son has such great care and a good home with me. I haven’t responded to any of those texts.
And she got upset. She texted:
“Whoever told you only to communicate with me about S is out of their mind. Our old pastor told me you want a divorce (I didn’t tell him that though we have talked about all kinds of things including that possibility), and it looks like you don’t want a friendship or to be able to support our family together so I’m just here in limbo. Im not sure how we can ever move forward without talking to each other”…”You have been my best friend for over half my life and I am telling my friends I just don’t get it. I don’t know what’s going on.”
