Hi I need some advice. Please and thanks. 20 days ago spouse left.for.another state found new gf .roughly dating six mo. I'm having all the usual feels. I've done the no to little contact. With him reaching out twice once to another person hence wondered if I was mad at him, but today after 3 days no contact us reached out to see how I was . I waited for two hours and he responded with hello? And again with I'm worried about you. So I responded with ill be fine thanks for asking. He said I know you'll be fine I'm worried about your migraines. I responded after heavy thought that they essentially will cont until some things resolve or get discussed further . Kids finances insurance etc he said he gets it lots to work through. Exactly. Hard to do at a distance .not said tho. I confronted him with some lying about the last six months he said it was not his intentions didn't plan it etc. I asked how in was supposed to trust him now? He said you'll believe what you'll believe. I said why wouldn't I why shouldn't I please explain. He said he had no intention of falling for this person, I wasn't looking for it in was perfectly happy I let my guard down. He was in TN. I'm in ME he was constructing a new house for us. I said I understand letting your guard down and distance was not our friend.. He then begins to open up a bit about us falling into a rut not really caring if we were doing things to make each other happy . Our weight no exercising etc. I said we were not discussing openly because we are both non confrontational.. I reminded him how happy we were when we we're happy walking and hiking and that how that spurred us to naturally eat better too. We continued in that manner for a bit with additional kind back and forth chatter. I was pleased. I wanted to end it first . Lol learning . So I said thanks for the chatting I gotta run. And asked for an idea for return to Maine . He replied early Nov . I said ok have a good day.. He said thanks you too. I care about you. I replied Same
I am feeling hopeful but not over the moon. I think my feelings are in check. So .... This is a good first step yes? I played the situation pretty good ? Yes? Feedback anyone? Thanks in adavnce!
Last edited by lonelee; 10/15/2404:40 PM. Reason: Mis spelling
Married 1991 D 32 GD 12 D 30 GD 3 S 29 M 58 S 57 1st bomb 2008 2nd bomb 4/2015 same person New bomb 09/24 I fear those big words which make us so unhappy.
