Take time to mourn the loss (some say it can be second only to experiencing a death)
I personally think it’s worse not second because in death you are sure there is no recovery whereas in this case you might think there is hope.
That's because you've never gone through it....
: )
At Swarthmore U here in the U.S., students play "misery poker" (these are high achievers) to "compete" with who has it worse (in terms of workload, college life, etc.). I submit it is all relative to your personal stress tolerance. For some people, it is worse. For others, death of a spouse is worse. Either way, comparing "hands" (to continue the card game metaphor) isn't as good as a Rise of Grok thread so I'm also waiting for that!
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I just like to get under Cadet's skin a little.
I've been frustrating him since his first thread here.
And I'm not gonna lay out my thoughts on the subject again.
I talked to my peeps about an hour north of you last night. And as you say, the flooding is the biggest concern for them.
I'm glad that you are staying busy with things. I just don't want you to "hide" in things and delay processing the emotions that go along with everything the past couple weeks.
You are correct that I have experience in that area. And just like all of the years proceeding the latest, I certainly didn't want to be an "expert" in DBing OR being a Widower.
Truth is, out of all of the long term married couples out there, 50% of them will experience this.
Originally Posted by grok
Oh, and I still have 1/3 of the garage and a 10 X 20 foot space in the house with her stuff not yet taken. Hmmm... In the theme of OYS (Own Your S...), it is still there I choose it to be. I contemplated putting it on a pallet and dropping it off on OM's front porch. Because that was evil me and funny.
Maybe you could use that space to hang all of your Benson Boone apparel now ? : )
I dunno know G, Take some time and let it rest. I was just literally going through this scenario with a friend last week. What to do with a wayward spouse's stuff that was left in the carnage. I was thinking about the two extremes of just living with it, or packing it up and sending it. So maybe think about a middle ground with it that you can live with.
