Wish I could reach through this screen and make it all go away. You know...in true "I'm a fixer" style. LOL.
Thanks MamaG. I think that is why all of us are here. Kindred spirits of a sort.
Originally Posted by MamaG
Know that you are cared for by friends you've touched with your updates.
This means a lot to me. As there is NO one but the readers who know this much of my story.
Originally Posted by MamaG
Your update struck me. I felt your 'death without a funeral' like it was my own. And, out in this unpredictable world, a grown woman is crying.
{{{hugs}}}
Death <> Divorce
a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:8, Ephesians 5:31
It is a Death...to be torn apart to become two again, the one ... dies ... and the injury and hurt are VERY similar. And you start to understand ...
In my readings here I came across comparisons that hit hard. Here are two threads I can find right now. Worth reading. Keep tissues handy. Click the link.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
If someone had asked me before I went through this which was worse… having your spouse leave you for another person or having them die, I would have chosen the latter, no doubt. I would have said that someone dying is so much worse than having them leave…and it is…for the person who died…because they don’t get to live anymore. But for the person left behind…not so much.
Losing a partner to cancer is different than the loss of a partner through Divorce. Similarly the same, yet totally the opposite. From my perspective, the difference being that one, (divorce), was a conscious decision that had been made, whereas losing a partner to death is NOT a decision. It is the total opposite of a decision. If anything can lesson the pain, it is that.
Waiting for the end to come Wishing I had strength to stand This is not what I had planned It's out of my control Flying at the speed of light Thoughts were spinning in my head So many things were left unsaid It's hard to let you go
(Oh) I know what it takes to move on (Oh) I know how it feels to lie (Oh) All I wanna do Is trade this life for something new Holding on to what I haven't got
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Last edited by grok; 09/17/2403:54 AM.
H:55 XW:50 D19, D18, S13 ILYBINILWY 3/23 DB1 4/23, rescinded 5/23, DB2 6/23 ("I can't do this, I Love HIM") Legal Mediation 1-5 & W leaves 8/23 – 3/24 Settlement 5/24, Court 9/11/24 <-, D 9/16/24
