It’s mostly a subconscious process. Emotional understanding. Acceptance. As emotions are born, live, and die within a realm outside of intellect and direction conscious control. Emotions rise and fall as one traverses their path.
The conscious part is one keeping busy, maintaining their health, allowing time to consciously think about their situation, and also not dwelling upon it. To keep moving forward. To have faith.
Yup. This resonates. Hadn't seen it in this exact light, but I feel it.
Originally Posted by DnJ
It is reasonable to feel some clashing with your Mom over stuff. Especially considering the current grief and such. Ensure you aren’t projecting/blaming her for your feelings.
Wow! So, I'm still angry. Not angry at mom, but angry. Are you suggesting that perhaps in my anger, I'm not receiving her offer to stay for dinner as just her offer for a joint dinner? Rather, I'm hearing that she's trying to control me? And, as a result, I control the situation by not staying? Ouch, this subconscious can be ugly!!
You asked why...I have sat on this and only come up with a surface answer. I'm not sure that this is it. Still pondering...
Originally Posted by DnJ
Actually four sides/paths: physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. Like four lane on our life’s highway. All four paths win/grow/evolve. It just feels differently (for a while).
PIES, yes PIES. I like the 4 lane highway visual. TY.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Grateful for Mom being here to frustrate me. Haha.
Be better, not bitter.
Trying. I, too am grateful for both mom and dad. They are both wonderful people. Aging. Yes, very much so. I cherish the moments and believe that part of the season I'm in is intended for me to spend more time with both. God works in mysterious ways. He may be saving me from guilt (for not making memories) I'd carry after they pass. H and I were pretty content with each other's company and didn't choose to spend time with others all that often. Is this God's way of saving me from myself?
Originally Posted by DnJ
One other idea for you to consider: Go on a vacation/trip with Mom. You’ve got lots of vacation time. Helps with the loneliness, and that new world one is crafting. A few days maybe, not six weeks. Or maybe a few day trips.
Mom and I plan trips 2x a month. Overnights aren't possible as dad can't be left alone for too long. Mom is his caretaker. If he could join us, he would.
Mom accompanied me to the big city for visit with S on Friday. It was so wonderful to spend time with both of them. We had lunch and indulged. And, despite being stuffed, we each ordered a dessert. We still laugh at how she left her steak tips but ate every last bit of dessert. Wonderful memories for us to cherish. Glad you're doing the same. Mom (and dad) need us just as much as we need them. A forever relationship that we're both blessed with.
Originally Posted by DnJ
What card game(s) are you playing in your league? Bridge?
Playing pitch - didn't mention it as I don't know if it is a widely known game. Looking forward to another match up tonight. But first, a visit with my nephew at his University. He invited me last week and I am excited.
Still no word from hubby. Hope he's self-reflecting and healing.
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