Just checking in here. Hope everyone is finding peace in their situations and working on themselves. Ive read a few of your stories, havent had a chance to reply. But just a word of advice. Treat your wayward spouses as strangers, the relationship you had together is dead, the trust and committment is gone. If you decide to rebuild anything, it has to be completely from scratch. Just remember they are treating you as nothing more than an acquaintance and you should act accordingly, do not give them the benefit of the doubt, do not do things in an amicable way if they are not doing the same, they do not respect you in any way, the respect has to be earned. Also in any separation or divorce proceeding as DnJ has said, treat it strictly as business, as you are living in a logical reality and they are living in an emotionally driven one. If they want to come back to you and you are willing to entertain the thought, THEY have to earn your trust, THEY have to earn your forgiveness. It is not on you to fix something that you did not break. And if you are on the fence of whether you want to take them back and build something new, think long and hard if you are emotionally strong enough and willing to sacrifice to allow them back into your life. You are a good person and stay true to your morals and values, do not compromise those for anyone. It is your life and your life alone for you to decide what you want. Good luck to everyone
