Thank you so much for reading through this and providing such a thoughtful reply! You gave me much to think about.
I'll respond to a couple things off the top of my head.
Originally Posted by DnJ
I do understand your good intentions. How big a mistake are you figuring you’re in?
Maybe not a huge mistake except for the fact that it gave her attorney a foothold to send the initial "threat" to me with the claim that the agreement was totally unfair to my STBXW. Of course it is an unfair agreement because it doesn't specify the things I'm voluntarily giving to her outside of the agreement. So maybe if we had specified everything up front, there wouldn't be much for her and her attorney to latch onto. At the time I thought that specifying everything would be too much legal red-tape to deal with because "of course she could trust me", based on almost 40 years of knowing my character. So leaving it out was my idea and she said she agreed with it at the time.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Good for you hiring a L. Speak with them. Find out your rights, what can be negotiated, and what cannot. I don’t know the informal agreement, however it doesn’t sound all that binding if she can just threaten to end it.
The separation agreement is supposed to be binding. But the "threat" from her attorney claimed that if I didn't renegotiate, a "Motion to Vacate" would be filed with a good chance of being granted by the court, based on how much the agreement leaves out (even though my STBXW signed it). But the separation agreement does specifically exclude spousal support, so my attorney thinks that gives me a good chance of getting out of that (with my job ending in January being another factor in my favor).
Originally Posted by DnJ
Hope you are having an enjoyable weekend.
I'm having a great weekend! I'm visiting one of our sons for a few days.
