Great update. I love the rubber band analogy. Yes, when one is rigid, their emotions/feelings will exert tremendous pressure. One who is more flexible can more easily allow such feelings to wash over them, then return to their center. Letting feelings flit.
I am sorry STBXW is being difficult. Her refusal to utilize her university education, to not work full time, does not equate to you having to fund her life choices. And her continued drinking is not helping matters.
Keep walking your path, your side of the street. You are right, as long as the kids remain safe, let her be.
Continue living and loving life. Investing time with kids, family, friends, and self. You are so correct - it absolutely pays off!
Have a great day my friend.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
