I am definitely on guard. I have been avoiding speaking about the situation as much as possible.
In regards to the counselling it seems she is on board. It does seem to make her think about herself and us a bit more than before.
I guess the parts that I'm having most trouble with are the following:
1. She went from full divorce with lawyers and buying her out of the house to no lawyer and let's not do anything with the house. I look at this as a positive, but maybe I shouldn't be. Surely it's better than full steam ahead?
2. The fact that she told the kids 2 weeks ago and is still here is making me upset for obvious reasons. If you are going to put them through that then you need to be ready no follow through no? I have taken them aside to let them know that Mom might still be leaving and that she is just working out some stuff. A reminder she has stated that the house she has is ready at any time. (No idea how she is paying for it).
3. Then there are the little, normally inconsequential statements in a normal scenario. For example last night she started talking about our streaming subscriptions and that we should consider the Netflix with ads tier. I responded sure and also made another suggestion and her response was that it needs to be a system the kids and I can use without having to come get you. WTF? Are you leaving or not? Cause if you are leaving the streaming services at my house should mean nothing to you. I'm sure this point is nothing - but still a strange direction for the conversation.
