It’s been 5 years since I had a runaway husband return home . Now 5 years later I have a full blown MLCer who is moving out of the home in a few days . 2 marriage - kids from both first marriages and kids together . Over the last 2 years I suspected OW. We had a very traumatic event happen and over the last few months I would say our relationship grew extremely strong . Probably the strongest it has been in years . I didn’t have proof of affair but was certain it ended during this event . Which he admitted today .I was honest with him and said I know u have been cheating for years but I ignored it . He never admitted it told me I was crazy all the stuff . I told him someone gonna pretty much have to knock on my door and tell me because I’m not chasing you around . So I chose to just move toward improving our marriage. Which we both were very happy falling in love again . Well bomb drop came not from him . A random letter with all of it in it . Photos the entire shabang. Asking for him to leave OW alone .Now this rocked me at my core because for the last few months we had made such improvement . But this was just flat out now thrown in my face . He denied it . Until the pictures . Then confessed . An 18 month affair . He ended it told OW he was working on marriage few months ago . Still don’t know who sent the letter but whatever . So here we are now days later . The man who last week would do anything and was dating his wife 3 nights a week now says he is incapable of being married and does not want to put the work in . I told him that was his choice and he is free to go I will not beg or ask someone to stay . He’s now saying he’s never been alone in his life and now needs to learn to be alone because he hurts everyone he loves and he is the problem . I know the steps . The only I did ask if he chooses to talk it must be at a different location . The kids have been through enough . He did say I don’t love the OW and it was just a spiteful thing and I didn’t want to be here but felt it wasn’t right to leave . He has apologized numerous times to the point I said stop . But unwilling to do the work flat out said no I’m moving out. At least point if I’m being truly honest I don’t think I want to even be married to someone who is this big of a train wreck . We did talk today as I left for a night last night just to get through the flood of emotions . The honesty that came out of him was pretty dark .
