So just an update on my situation On the stbxw front, I am still awaiting on a signature of hers to finalize the legal separation, it is now August 14th and I've yet to receive a signed copy of the agreement with the mediated and agreed upon terms from our negotiations. As I have said I have signed my agreement through my lawyer on July the 2nd and I've had multiple emails sent from my lawyer asking if there's a signed copy received on my end. Since there hasn't been my lawyer has sent already 3 emails to stbxw telling her the ramifications of not signing and potential court costs if I choose to proceed in having her served. I do not want to go through with this process as it seems like an unnecessary waste of funds to come to an agreement on something we have already drafted with more than favorable terms for her. To me it feels like this could be one of two things. She's having buyers remorse now realizing things are real and I'm actually gone, or b) she is completely comfortable with the situation as is, which she said to me the last time we spoke "don't worry the money is in a safe place"
On the personal and career front, I have started a career here as a real estate agent, I'm now 2 weeks into and am quite enjoying it, I was in the profession back in north america. Learning the rules and legalities here is a bit of a learning curve and adapting to the internal crm system has taken some studying, but the challenge and work required have given me a nice sense of routine and balance in my life here.
I still make time for myself as lunch here tends to be 2 hours so I still enjoy that alone when I can, I make time for enjoying festivals with family and friends. A good sense of balance I believe I have achieved.
On another front I have met someone here and we seemed to have hit it off both online and then meeting in person, I am taking things slow as is she. I'm trying to gage compatibility and finding traits in her that I look for in a woman and if she is on the same page as me in terms of what she looks for in a partner and what kind of life she desires. I've learned a lot of lessons from the whole situation with stbxw. I feel learning to be by myself has given me a satisfying life and helped me be the best version of myself, in the encounters I have had with the new woman I have felt confident and myself all while not feeling or portraying the need of having someone in my life. I continue to do my regular trips to a place of meaning for me- a mountain to with a chapel near my parents home, where my father used to give me motorcycle rides to, I now go there regularly to pray and enjoy the views and occasionally the sunsets over the mountains. I consider this a type of sanctuary for me, I never pray for anything more than strength And even pray for others well being, and ask for the courage and wisdom to stay humble and centered on what's important for me
