I'll be honest with you, I accepted my ex back for an attempt at reconciliation. At the time she worked with OM, through marriage counselling it was suggested that she find a new workplace, but she insisted that she liked the job, as she likely was enjoying the attention from him and she was surrounded by women who were "living their best life".
I was ok at first with her continuing to work there if I saw progress and her putting effort into fixing our marriage. Although I was willing to allow her to stay at her work while reconciling, the last straw for me was when she told me without any shame or guilt that the OM had given her feedback about our relationship. This was the day I kicked her out of the house the last time and we have never lived together since.
Had I seen even a smidgen of effort from her in the reconciliation and a willingness to change her behaviour I would have tried to work things through. I do not regret kicking her out, now a year later I realize that no one should have to live that way or subject oneself from such bookish behaviour. We cannot force anyone who is lost to find their way. It has to be in their heart for it to ever work, no amount of twisting or turning will change that.
Last edited by DnJ; 08/12/2404:58 PM. Reason: Corrected couple of typos.
