Nicely done! Letting H do his own laundry and such. He needs to feel the loss before he will move forward and hopefully grow/evolve. Methinks things are getting real for H with his pending moving out getting closer and closer.
Yes, telling the boys about Dad’s moving out will not be a fun time. However, I suspect they know more than you realize. Dad sleeping in the guest house and such, this is just the other shoe dropping.
Stick to the facts. Ensure the boys know this has nothing to do with them, and you love them. The boys may have questions or may have none at that time. Be open, honest, and age appropriate. And it’s perfectly fine to answer “I don’t know. Let me think about it and I’ll get back to you.” (And do get back to them in a timely fashion.)
Stay strong. You’ll do fine. (And are doing fine!)
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
