I am back after a year and want to thank everyone who supported me during this journey. I believe I followed your advice to GAL, as I spent the past year off the forum, enjoying life and working on self-improvement. I am now somewhat at peace with the divorce, which was finalized early in 2024. Despite several conversations with my ex during the process, I still encountered resentment and blame, even when trying to be friendly and helpful. This experience truly highlighted that both of us still have much to learn about becoming kinder and more secure individuals.
XW left in December 2022, and sometime later, I met someone nice organically and we started dating for several months. Unfortunately, it turned out she had a fully avoidant attachment style. We had similar backgrounds—both being divorced—and shared great chemistry and connection, but she wasn't willing to be vulnerable and build a solid foundation. I'm still some time away from re-entering the standard dating scene, as there are aspects of myself that I want to improve and standards to set for future prosperous relationships. Despite the bumps in the road, the last 12 months have been amazing. I've traveled a lot, reconnected deeply with friends and family, met interesting new people, and fulfilled many of my dreams! Truly enjoying little moments! :))
As for my XW (29y), she did start a relationship with ~40y old men that I thought she had an affair with. So, I guess some of you were absolutely right He also, divorced from his marriage with kids. As far as other people told me they are planning wedding already and potentially having a child. Sounds like rushing, but I hope she finds peace and love. We share a lot of friends they sometimes leak something about her, but I am strictly in NC for a year now (apart from closing the divorce papers). She still sometimes watches my or my friends social media, even thought we do not follow each other. Perhaps it's her way of being curious. I guess I reached a place of love - wanting the best for her without wanting her back.
Once I am fully ready, I will continue my search for good partner. Tring to be kinder one day at a time
He also, divorced from his marriage with kids. As far as other people told me they are planning wedding already and potentially having a child. Sounds like rushing, but I hope she finds peace and love. We share a lot of friends they sometimes leak something about her, but I am strictly in NC for a year now (apart from closing the divorce papers). She still sometimes watches my or my friends social media, even thought we do not follow each other. Perhaps it's her way of being curious. I guess I reached a place of love - wanting the best for her without wanting her back. 
