I have a week on my own at the moment. She has taken the children to see family, feels really weird to not constantly look after others. Plus I am on much-needed holidays after several months that have been very intense at work.
I am abroad with family myself, so taking lots of time to meet family and friends. Next week I have another trip to one of the French wine regions to stock up. I have been working on my hobby which I neglected for years and am looking to build up a nice wine cellar. Need to save up for next year to go to one of the Italian regions that I love and stock up there as well.
Work has been good as well despite being intense. I have been working with a mentor to act as a sounding board, which has been quite helpful as well. Your points on 2-3 things to work on are well-made. I have some projects in mind, but will also think hard which behavioural traits I want to change.
I will give some thought to your point on the ways in which my wife is trying to engage me. I have been trying to take out negative interaction, in particular when she gets emotional. However, last week she did bring up something professional she is thinking about which would have implications on me (including a potential move). I did explain to her that she does need to think about what she wants - if she does want to separate, that will mean splitting assets and her needing to get a full time job (she is thinking that I will keep paying for everything).
Not a discussion that I wanted to have during my holidays. I did side-step any conflict during two similar conversations in previous days, when I just listened to her.
