I mean who did he think he was 2yrs ago saying ILYBINILWY...as if. Does H think that in the 32yrs of marriage I haven't had the same feelings? You know what you do you fight through those feelings cause they do pass. Sorry I know that's random. From time to time I think abt things that were said and I think, As If. Certain things stick out the most, ... I could go on and on but I won't bore y'all. I'm sure yall have heard similar things.
It ties in with quotes I posted from Zues126, from GK Chesterton, with the notion that Love not just feelings, or a verb, but is also a Choice.
on "OM/OW is a symptom"
Originally Posted by on X by @FrenchOG3
guys who will go and blame the guys their gf/wife cheated on them with. Not realising the gf/wife is the problem not the enabler. The other guy was just there to pop their ego investment bubble.
However, their cognitive dissonance and the feelings for their gf/wife blind them.
The guy she cheated with was just the messenger.
Even if the guy was not in the picture the problem was already there, and she just needed a trigger. ... ... Instead, you should thank the guy she cheated on you with because then you know who you are truly dealing with, not blame him.
Now you are free.
Lick the wounds your ego suffered, cut your losses from your misplaced investments and understand that the world is at it is not as you wish it to be.
I would say free to Stand or Leave or ?, seeing the world and spouse as it is, not as you wish it or him/her to be. The problems with ME and HER were already there. What you choose is about who YOU are. I did put this on Whatlee's thread but it follows here...
Originally Posted by Truegritter
IMO standing is an essential part of the healing process of the LBS. You will constantly questions this throughout. At least I have up to this point.
You will ask yourself questions like "WTF am I doing this for this person?"
In the beginning we want answers.
...
Then you realize that this is part of YOU
What you have chosen is part of YOU and your character. So what began out of a search for answers for why and what is wrong with you. Out of hurt for what someone did to you...
You see it all has to do with who YOU are. The best part of who YOU are and then...
W inserted this anomaly, for her, into the conversation
"G, You know I would be OK with putting the kids into a school if they ever showed signs of interest. but they haven't. "
I said nothing but acknowledged her statement. This is the first thought of non-homeschooling expressed to me in over a decade. W was upset with me saying in mediation we should have a clause that lets us jointly consider schooling options on a yearly basis rather than legally locking in only homeschool.
Something for the LBS -
Lesser Loves from Lamentations: Simple Songs of Lament and Hope by Bifrost Arts
I was an orphan, but You called me "child" I was a stranger; I was lost and defiled, Redemption found me from up above O how I had settled for lesser loves.
(refrain) How can I thank you, Lord? My broken heart, You have restored. How can I thank you, Lord? You give me grace I cannot afford.
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H:55 XW:50 D19, D18, S13 ILYBINILWY 3/23 DB1 4/23, rescinded 5/23, DB2 6/23 ("I can't do this, I Love HIM") Legal Mediation 1-5 & W leaves 8/23 – 3/24 Settlement 5/24, Court 9/11/24 <-, D 9/16/24
