MLC Hubby wants to move out

[mamabird]

A bit of an update.

Last Friday H went to look for an apartment and said he wasn't sure when he was going to be back. No communication, but by 11:30 pm I was super annoyed so I locked the bedroom door and went to sleep.

Next morning I check the security cameras - H came back at 1:35 am and slept in the guest house. I don't know whether he tried to get into the bedroom or not because I sleep with noise cancelling earbuds (thanks to his snoring).

H stumbled out of the guesthouse about 11:30 am. He looked like crap. He looked as if he'd had a really rough night. He's not a big drinker or anything like that. I have no idea what he got up to, but I did notice the next day that he moved my work badge in the car. Normally I keep it in the middle console and he moved it to the door. When I confronted him about it he said "I'm not cheating." Someone was in the car though.

I also decided not to do H's laundry like I normally do. I just washed my own clothes and left his in the hamper. I said nothing. He got down to it on his own, but he has no idea how to sort laundry! He washed and folded his own clothes and a few of mine too. I still said nothing!

Since that day - that was Saturday morning and it's Tuesday now - H has had a different attitude. He's been a little more social. He says hello and goodbye. He says dinner was good (and he eats it, which he kind of wasn't before). He's not really asking me about my life but he's thawed out considerably.

I gave him a few ground rules having to do with money and how I want it handled when he is gone. He didn't argue. I told him that he always looks so pained when we talk about him moving out. He said, "This is a nice place to live." Yeah DUH H. It sounds to me like he's starting to regret this choice a little. I just shrug at him.

Also, he mentioned that he wants to buy a pick up truck (we have 2 cars, one is our nice car and one is our kids' car, so he has to get another car). This fool was all set to enter into a lease but he I think he listened to me when I told him to get a used car so he can at least SELL IT back. He's super dumb with money - one of our major issues.

We also had to collaborate on a project. Our ice maker broke and we took it apart and fixed it together. Without fighting.

Anyway, I am staying strong. I am going away on a business trip tomorrow and when I get back we have to talk to S18 and S20. Dreading this.